I am legally named Tukayote Helianthus.
I am living alone in Bellingham, Washington.
I am a finsexual, masculine presenting, AMAB, non-binary person.
I am a relationship anarchist with multiple connections built on love.

I am imperfect.
I am making new mistakes and learing from previous ones.
I am living with grace.
I am unkillable and unstoppable.
I am powerful.
I am lovable.
I am loved.
I love myself unconditionally.

I am conscientous with my freedom and agency.
I am honest with myself and others.
I am ethical in how I treat people.
I am living in integrity with myself.
I am honoring and living by my values and morals.
I am responsible for my choices.
I am accountable for my decisions.

I am independent.
I am autonomous.
I am free as a fucking bird.
I am not obligated to anyone.
I am a relationship anarchist with multiple connections that I love.
I am securely attached to the people I bring into my life.
I am a slow burner in my bonds.
I respond to hormones, attraction, and romance with intention.

I am moving my life forward every day.
I am creating space for the right things to fill it.
I am building a life I want and need.
I am tenacious in living the life I want.
I am contuously improving my life.
I am choosing my condition and experiences.
I am eliminating everything and everyone that doesn’t support my present life.

I am bettering humanity by eliminating my patterns.
I am keeping my promises and committments.
I am setting boundaries and keeping them.
I am communicating my wants, needs, and feelings, instead of avoiding.
I am maintaining healthy interdepedence.
I am real, not performative.
I am trusting others to manage their own lives.
I am holding others accountable for their decisions and consquences.
I am owning my actions and outcomes.
I am denying access to those who hurt me on purpose.
I am believing the actions of people instead of their words.
I am keeping those who are peaceful and hold my heart with care.
I am aware of my traumas and eliminating the unhealthy responses.
I am saying “NO” to things that I do not want to participate in.
I am on an employment sabbatical.

I am a sober man in recovery.
I am choosing behaviors that do not reinforce other people’s addictions.
I am committed to emotional sobriety.
I am emotionally detoxing.
I am committed to not using alcohol or drugs.
I am protecing myself emotionally and physically.
I am mindful of my urges.
I am in control of my emotions.
I am managing my mental health challenges.
I am regulating my nervous system.
I am self-aware.
I am doing parts work with my internal family system.
I am aware of my shadows and working on them.
I am committed to my manifesto.
I am free from social media.
I am limiting external noise.
I am choosing distance from politics.
I am OK, no matter happens to me.

I am a peer-supporter.
I am a mental-health first-aider.
I am a long-distance walker.
I am a traveler.
I am a hiker.
I am a photographer.
I am a dancer.
I am a writer.
I am a music enthusiast.
I am a disabled United States Air Force veteran.

I am a father.
I am a brother.
I am an orphan.

I am generous in my love.
I love everyone, without conditions, equally.
I am no-contact with how I love some people.

I am allowing myself to grieve.
I am letting my tears out instead of bottling them up.
I am feeling my feelings without numbing or avoiding them.
I am living a life without fear of abandonment, rejection, or loss of love.

I am grateful for everyone, everything, and every experience I have had in life.
I am living my best life and lucky to have wonderful people living it with me.
I am on the most fantastic journey in life I have ever been on.